Ask Twice, Judge Once
Curiosity before condemnation.
6 min | Hymn IV - Ask Twice, Judge Once
Principle
Most conflict is not caused by disagreement - it is caused by misunderstanding.
Asking clarifying questions is one of the simplest ways to reduce harm.
The Failure Mode
Judgment arrives faster than understanding.
When emotions are high, we assume intent instead of seeking clarity.
The Practice (This Week)
- Before responding to anything emotional, ask two clarifying questions.
- Only then offer your opinion.
Reflection (Optional)
When do you feel the urge to "win" instead of understand?
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Principle
Ask Twice, Judge Once
Understanding begins where assumptions end.
Failure
The Failure Mode
We judge intent before clarifying facts - especially when emotions rise.
Practice
This Week's Practice
Ask two clarifying questions before responding to anything emotional. Offer your opinion only after listening.
Practical wisdom for living decently in a complicated world.